farah
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Post by farah on Nov 14, 2006 20:01:45 GMT 7
[prObs eversince 210506]
ihad gotten maself into a prob relationship <dats wat i called dix relationship>
noe him frm afren been togetheron e first tymmet <too earli to noe him well>
eversince den been havin alot of probs <too much too handle though>
now gettin to 6months n probs dont stop <we dun haf a break frm e probs>
i feel stupid sticking to a relationship dat is too much of a prob more SAD-ness den HAPPY-ness memories dat hurtsumtym
had tot of lettin himgo but hearts him lot
if he onli knew how i feel <he didnt care>
[[[-*FaRah*-]]]
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Post by PrinCeiFied on Nov 14, 2006 20:06:31 GMT 7
For me, there is no point in hanging on. A relationship is supposed to bring you happiness and joy, not pain and anguish. I would advice you to let go of him. he is not the only guy in the universe. You still have many opportunities. Don't tie yourself down to him when you are actually doing that at the stake of your happiness. Do cheerup, You may love him alot but have you asked if he has loved you or rathe, is he still loving you like he used to be or was the relationship just another of the fading memories he has in his life? Ask yourself that question too. If you really can't bear to let him go and open your doors to moreguys out there, then I would suggest you and him sit down and have a good talk about your relationship to salvage it. if it goes on like this, its gonna end sooner or later so there's no point in pretending nothing is happening. it would only make matters worse. Cheerup and see if my advice works. SGology is behind you.
Be Strong and all the best!
-PrinceiFied.
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Post by farah on Nov 14, 2006 20:13:17 GMT 7
i have gave him my heart i had like him since i knew him but he changed now having second thoughts but i cant let go though
it will be too much for me to handle had been hurt once i noe how it felt goin thru it another tym will take a couple ofyears it aint easy as u said
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Post by PrinCeiFied on Nov 14, 2006 20:15:31 GMT 7
Ok, if that is the case, try talking to him abt it? At east you know you have done something to salvage the relationship. You didn't stand by and do nothing, jkust watch it fall through. You know you have tried. So all you have to do now is to find an appropriate time to talk to him and understand the situation better. All the best!
- PrinCEiFied.
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Post by farah on Nov 14, 2006 20:19:07 GMT 7
haha ive doone that a couple of tyms instead i was to blame <wellmaybe part of it i admit>
but everitym we talk he will blame me for EVERYTING how to haf a nice a chat bout us <everiting seem so compplicated after it>
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Post by PrinCeiFied on Nov 14, 2006 20:22:44 GMT 7
I'll leave you to our consultant, Princess then. She may be an expert in this field. LOL. I really don't know what to do with your case. Maybe other memebrs could help. While waiting for more advices and opinions, I wish you all the best for your relationship.
-PrinCeiFied
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Post by ZenShi on Nov 15, 2006 8:38:12 GMT 7
I aint well-expericed in relationship but i have some reflective comment that might keep you sober.
A friend of mine was attached to a guy for 8 years(14yrs old till 22yrs old) and even right from the start many problems arose. The girl always thought it might be a real pity if she were to give up halfway so she stick around even though she could not find real happiness. Until one day when she really hit the extreme climax, they broke up. Till today, i see that she is happier than before which she never knew she can be when she's attached. Now, she regretted the time she wasted because of her foolish thoughts. I just feel sorry for her but there aint anything i can do to help cos time passes faster than you think it move.
If you have a decision, stay firm to it. Be decisive and stick to your heart. From here, i wish you the light to the end of tunnel in finding your true self.
- zen -
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Post by farah on Nov 15, 2006 12:36:15 GMT 7
e situation u wrote its similar to mine n of cox idun want to make e same mistake as e gerl
its heartbreaking to read ur story
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Post by Princess on Nov 15, 2006 16:26:32 GMT 7
Hi FaRah, sorry I didn't come to your aid as fast as ZenShi or PrinCeiFied did. Haha... tied down with work. But mind sharing with us what are the problems exactly? Your phrasing of words is a little difficult to understand and your problems are described too vaguely. Maybe when you had explained everything to us, you yourself would know what's the solution too. Now, you're still confused.
You're a girl right? So how long did you and this guy meet and had been together? When did you start dating and what is he doing now> Maybe when we have a clearer picture we would know where the problem lies. Don't worry, since you're here, we'll always be glad to help you or lend you a listening ear!
Many girls go into relationships and face similar problems. I've been there and done that. I may not be the most experienced person to give any comments but trust me, all girls are alike no matter how different they are. And it applies to guys too!
From what I had read of your previous posts, you guys are at a lower point of your relationship. As PrinCeiFied had mentioned, try to chat him up about the problem or forget about it. But always remember, COMPROMISE is the key to all relationships. If he's unwilling to compromise for your sake and doesn't even wanna talk about it, or worse, he blames you for whatever that had happened, then he's not in his right state of mind too. Maybe he's confused or maybe he had lost interest/faith in this relationship. And if a guy does't wanna sit down and talk, he's not very matured either.
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Post by gynette on Nov 26, 2006 0:37:34 GMT 7
princess. i got a problem. help me with it.
if i quarrel with my darling everyday. for like small things and sometimes. over REAL stupid things. is tat dumb? but after tat in de end. we still like okay okay. like nothing happen also. so can you tell me wad's wrong? cos i find it weird. everytime also lidat. yet i cant find de answer to explain everything tat happens.
er. just asking a question. hope i am not hijacking into farah's problem. xP
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Post by Princess on Nov 28, 2006 23:18:51 GMT 7
I think more or less the problem lies with communicating and intersubjectivity. You guys need to establish your level of understanding and trust in each other. Communicate your ideas more often and if you guys often quarrel over the slightest matters, try going out in groups for a change. You might find that talking in groups and acting like normal friends once in a while is quite fun and ok to do so. But seek his view on this first. Ask each other questions and never end the day with a quarrel unsettled. Reassure him with your love and care. Try to do something nice which you think would make him happy, such as cooking him a nice "Lovers' Lunchbox" and presenting it to him after his game of basketball (of he's a basketball fanatic) or simple just hold his hand and tell him sincerely that you love him. There's nothing wrong with loving each other since you are a couple. If he shouts or says something nonsensical, don't get upset as this is maybe his way of reacting to shock or surprise. Talk to him nicely and remember, he may test your patience like a kid. Tolerate and show patience. After you had cooled down, speak to him about it and tell him how he had hurt you with his actions and words. He'll be guilty about mistreating you and who knows? Maybe he'd be the one to present you with his "Lovers' Lunchbox" the next time you knew it!
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Post by gynette on Nov 29, 2006 11:54:58 GMT 7
hmmm. okay. haha. but last year he already gave me a lover's lunchbox. haha. but i always cook dinner for him when he comes my house. haha. but everytime we both quarrel. we both tinks tat we can communicate even well. haha. weird weird rite? LOLS. but tink nvm. thanks for de advice! i shall be sweeter and nicer to my darling*to prevent anymore quarrels*! =) THANKS!
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Post by Princess on Dec 6, 2006 19:22:18 GMT 7
Good for you, girl! All fights and quarrels will eventually come to an end. No one hates each other or stay angry with each other for long if they are in love. fights and quarrels actually make each other understand each other more and thus, communicate better. Try make everyday of your life with him as interesting as a roller coaster! Good luck!
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Post by gynette on Dec 8, 2006 12:13:23 GMT 7
haha. i will make sure both of our life will be MORE EXCITING than a roller coaster ride. haha. x) thanks thanks!!
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Post by Princess on Dec 9, 2006 0:05:06 GMT 7
You're welcome! Keep us posted on your proceedings! Lolz... good luck and all the best! And another tip: Try to make your coming Christmas with him as unforgettable as possible! Not only girls, but guys also enjoy being pampered and surprised!
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