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Post by Secret on Dec 4, 2006 1:01:28 GMT 7
Encouraging someone u likes to like someone else who likes him/her too. Is it Right or wrong?
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Post by PrinCeiFied on Dec 4, 2006 2:35:51 GMT 7
You mean asking someone you love to love someone he/she loves? Well, Right to a certain extend. Why? By doing so, you show you really love him/her because you are willing to sacrifice your happiness for his/her happiness. You want him/her to be happy, no matter the cost. This shows the power of your love.
However, asking someone you love to love someone else can be dumb, at times too. In Love, we all have to be selfish to be able to benefit and gain from it. Finders Keepers, Losers Weepers. I would choose to fight for every chance I have for my loved one. Not to give herup away so easily you see?
Overall, i think it really depends on both party and the reltionship of all 3 involved together.
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Post by Secret on Dec 4, 2006 12:16:55 GMT 7
what i mean is:
*Other gers(B) *GER *GUY
IF (B) like this guy, and GER n GUY likes each other, Ger felt that (B) likes/treasure him even much more then she do . Confirm will treat GUY good de.
Do this consider, silly?
At times, i can encourage the one i like to go forward in life or bring him joy but its seem like I'm the one letting him free, i feels happy when i feel his smile and laughing from him. Its a inner consoling things. don u agree?
Yes i agree to ur view for saying to be selfish in LOVE but, Sometime in life, we have to let go of tins to see the SMILE that come from the person, even the person mite b crying inside, but not all ppl could grab what they wants. PPl who treasure it or wat, yet then still cant get it, yet some don have to grab at all, n tins r just standing in front of them.
Sometime, u likes tis person, u even can feel u wan to b the person or he/she is the one, but u will worry, WILL WE BREAK UP? its makes ppl wonder to be tgt or not? its really not easy..
Love is like a MAZE, stepping in is easy but hard to be out.
I do wonder encouraging the one u like to goes for others. will tis b a really silly tins for me to do even we r not bf or gf at all? ^____^
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Post by PrinCeiFied on Dec 4, 2006 13:31:27 GMT 7
Well, in my point of view, not really cause I think its really brave of you to do that. But also, I discourge this because you can't decide who GUY should love. If he loves you, then why should you make him love someone else whom he might not even be happy with?
If you're worried about BREAK-UPs and such, then theres no point in a relationship because you don't have mutual trust. Sure, every relationship might just have a 90% chance to come to an end. Esp. Teenagers ones. But if you don't take the risk and put your relationship through that test, how do you know your feelings for each other is real?
Well, those are just my point of view. By the way, is this really happening to you?
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Post by Secret on Dec 4, 2006 18:06:29 GMT 7
Haha... kind of a problem of mine....
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Post by Princess on Dec 6, 2006 19:20:09 GMT 7
I kinda agree with both your points of view up to a certain extent. Although there is no absolute right or wrong in a relationship, you may consider what I have to offer.
First of all, the basic principle in all relationships is: RESPECT. Learn to respect one another, including each other's thinking and values. It is true that the other girl may seem to care for him more, but it all comes back to the guy's thoughts as in whether or not to accept the girl's kindness and acts. However, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" - if the guy loves you, it must be for a reason. You and the girl are both different. For example, you may have some traits or moments whereby it captures the guy's attention whereas he and the other girl just do not click. If there's no chemistry, nothing works.
Try to have more confidence in yourself and if you think that girl cares more about your boyfriend, why? And as his girlfriend, knowing that you can treat the guy better, don't you think you should treat him the way you think is right? don't you think you should treat him better if you think you are not doing so now?
Think about it.
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Post by Secret on Dec 7, 2006 2:59:21 GMT 7
U got a point! i appreaciate the advise but the guy is not my bf..... Tat's y i felt other gers mite suit him. i'm not sure whether he cares or not. Lots of time i tried my best to solve his sorrow whenever he communicate wit me online.
I felt contented and happy when i seen he is doing fine or i had help him step out of the sorrow. I'm not a person who want things just for my own good. Feeling his smile is the best joy i gets in life
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Post by Princess on Dec 7, 2006 23:46:02 GMT 7
Have you ever expressed how you feel towards him? Or as a woman. using your sixth sense, do you think he has the slightest interest in you? In my stand, I feel that rather you wait and see, I would feel that if you were to talk to him and tell him how you feel, it would be better. For example, express your feelings to him and see how he reacts. If he reveals that he thinks the other girl might suit him better, then bless them and get on with life. If everything works out well for your case, then good luck and all the best in your new relationship!
Initiative and motivation are very important in this issue of yours. Try to allow the other party to know your thoughts and feelings would be very beneficial for you.
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Post by Secret on Dec 8, 2006 12:35:21 GMT 7
I din express anything to him, i love to communicate with him, n i don feel stress/dislike towards him. i just felt i'm not up to his liking. Strong feelings tells me, he feels the same way as i do.
Frankly speaking, i met guys telling me things about themselves but he told me almost everything, his life, his past. etc. everyday or his coming plan.
Worse case, he even shared with me about gers have liking on him, and friends is trying to match made those gers with him, even i felt sad but the moment i still encourage him to try out with those gers, he's expression don seem good n no smile at all, and said "no comment, nv tot of that" He said that it makes me feel i said wrong things. I wonder y!
1) He cant expect me to stop gers liking him 2) How can i be selfish over him for my own!
He is a guy who is not in front of me at all n only living in my memory just for now.
Thank princess's advise, but i getting tired over tis. i was thinking should i let go of this feeling?
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Post by Princess on Dec 9, 2006 0:03:05 GMT 7
It's not up to you whether or not you can get over your feelings for someone, especially when I see that you guys can communicate well. If you don't feel like confessing your love for him yet, maybe you could just stay by him and just be there for him. One day he'd be moved by you. However, if you're 100% sure that he is never gonna like you or give you any chances, please stay away from him lest you get hurt. Friendship is a wonderful thing and maybe the best thing that can happen to anyone. Friendship can definitely last longer than love. Therefore, do not think that you, being his friend, is insufficient. I know you will yearn for more affections, but maybe thinking on the brighter side, you can definitely get more attention from him as a friend than one of those girls who are chasing after him, and pestering him.
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Post by Secret on Dec 10, 2006 11:26:35 GMT 7
I wonder if both girls n guy have liking for each other after quite long months of communication online b4 they really met in real. If they met n there is no stranger feeling on them yet is neutral or close/ easygoing/ happy reaction on them...
Will there be coincidence situation like, just nice both hardly met online, hardly communication like b4..... and wat if tis happen? does it show both r busy or the guy is avioding?
If once he met her online where he could msn her, he tells her everything of himself been busy for his past few day/ weeks, even said about his latest news..... What is he trying to show man...... HELPppppppppppppp
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Post by Princess on Dec 12, 2006 0:00:51 GMT 7
Hello girl! Wake up! No dot com site is gonna guarantee you true love or even a lasting one. Times are changing... ppl used to meet and befriend each other through face-to-face parties, etc, then through the telephone... and now? Through the keyboard and monitor. Everybody out there! There is a certain risk to online dating and friendships, although I am not implying that your relationship with your friend is that dangerous, but just a word of caution.
Most of the times, ppl go online to sought friends is to escape from reality and into a world whereby they can assume another identity and communicate their ideas and even their "other side" of themselves. It is no wonder that the guy can confide in you in almost everything. Well, you guys had never met and he can trust that you won't snitch on him since you don't even know him in person yet.
Online chats and watsoever does not have any commitment. Therefore, if the guys or girl doesn't turn up for an appointment, it's no wonder. If you are sincere and serious in befriending one another, organize a meet-up and maybe drag one of your friend along to safeguard yourself. Never let your guard down watsoever.
However, I had incidents of meeting up with my online friends and they turn out to be really good pals. I had one who became one of my best friends coz we can share our thoughts and likings and dislikes. Also, I had met my love of my life through IRC as well. We became really good friends and later, developed into a better stage of relations. However, as I had cautioned. There are pros and cons. Some ppl are just out to get fresh, whilst some are out to find someone to confide in so as to escape from the reality stress.
What do you think?
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Post by gynette on Dec 20, 2006 0:22:18 GMT 7
lols. princess you rock man! haha. good advisor! haha. x) btw. i met my darling in msn de. hahahaha! =x de story so long sia. i read a bit nia. haha. saw tat princess keep giving advices. so nice of her! x)
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Post by Secret on Dec 21, 2006 13:26:24 GMT 7
she is great, but some things is not as easy as it seem to b done....... Thank you, PRincess
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Post by Princess on Dec 22, 2006 1:24:24 GMT 7
Haha... you're welcome. I'm a moderator here so of course I should help you guys out. It's very true that very often, saying is easier than practice. But always remember, ppl who manage to practice what they preach and maintains themselves are the ones who will succeed in their endeavours. I am no saint and I do have tons of errors and liquid tapes in my life's milestone. However, I had learnt a precious lesson: to face it and to d**n it.
Haha... what the hell! Just take whatever that comes into your way and face it like a true blue hero. Nothing will go wrong if you follow your heart all the way!
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