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Jan 15, 2007 21:19:14 GMT 7
Post by Princess on Jan 15, 2007 21:19:14 GMT 7
Lolz, thanx. Well, coming clean is a major event to be prepared for (if you still remember the grooming part) tee hee... but gynette's real true about being comfortable in each other's presence. I think, maybe as students, ppl are still at the age of on the lookout for excitement and everything but contentment. If u guys agree with me, I believe life for a majority is a long wait. Ppl wait for almost everything. They wait for the time they turn 16, then 18, then 21. They wait for the next boyfriend or girlfriend, they wait for themselves to graduate, they wait for their next job, they wait for a wedding. After the marriage, they wait for the house, and the renovations. Then they wait for a baby. They believe that when the things they wait arrives, they would be happy. But guess what? They again wait for the baby to learn how to walk, then how to run, then go to school, graduate and get married. They wait for ppl to get old. Women wait for husbands to die and husbands wait for a divorce. In the end, what are we waiting for? I dun believe waiting will really bring you happiness because at the end of the wait is the beginning of another wait. I believe in contentment and being happy with what you have now, not waiting for something to happen to make me even happier. Isn't that true? What are you guys waiting for?
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Jan 15, 2007 21:56:03 GMT 7
Post by gynette on Jan 15, 2007 21:56:03 GMT 7
haha. lols. perhaps my boyfren and i are more practical. but princess. my boyfren and i have been dating ever since sec 1. (december) till now still together.. as you know. x) do you tink we will last? haha. worried worries. i juz hope we can last. haha.
btw zen. you got girlfren le ah? haha. x) jia you ah!
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Jan 16, 2007 9:39:39 GMT 7
Post by ZenShi on Jan 16, 2007 9:39:39 GMT 7
dun keep thinking whether you will last if you want it to, the more you think the tendency of problem arises occur. I aint trying to freak you off but ive got friends who have relationships for 3,4,10yrs but eventually end up with nothing but tears. But im sure as long as there's willingness and commitment in a relationship and both party respect the importance of communicating, then im sure it will work out fine !
cheerios !
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Jan 24, 2007 22:07:27 GMT 7
Post by Princess on Jan 24, 2007 22:07:27 GMT 7
Of course, I won't wanna scare you off with all those sad tragedies of broken loves, but there really are such incidents of ppl breaking up over long years of relationships. However, fret not. Ppl who break up after long years of relationships are mostly due to absence of the sparks and feeling that they possess for each other at first. Some of them became mature and decided what is best for themselves. Others are more involved in looking for another love to continue their lives in. In whichever case, those who left long-going relationships are less hurtful than those who ended during their 'honeymoon' period. This is really from personal experiences.
However, at you age, I believe girls will nevertheless mature faster than guys as they will have to go through NS and by that time, you might be wondering why isn't he spending time with you? And that you might seek comfort and company with someone else. This is very common. Another symptom would be when he had been released into the society, you had already been working for at least a year and you might find that in terms of social and practical dealings, the guy may not appear as confident and as great as the guy in your office. This will cause u to think that he's childish and it's time to part. Otherwise, if the relationship goes on, breaking up or staying together will really depend on your ability to sustain it and how you guys discipline yourselves. Remember, you guys are not exposed to many other matters yet, such as night-entertainments, seductions from better-abled suitors, etc. You might think twice when that time comes.
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Jan 25, 2007 17:02:57 GMT 7
Post by ZenShi on Jan 25, 2007 17:02:57 GMT 7
I just find NS is one of the biggest obstacle for the relationship in general. If a relationship starts more than a year before NS and lasted through NS, then ultimately the relationship is bound to hit off well, speaking on some past experience(not me though).
ha !
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Jan 25, 2007 21:50:25 GMT 7
Post by Princess on Jan 25, 2007 21:50:25 GMT 7
Haha... I agree. From my previous experiences, sad to say, I hate NS guys and always dump them once they enter camps. Lolz... cruel eh? Well, NS guys dun get a huge allowance or watsoever so most of the time the costs of dates are borne by me. I hate it so bye bye. Another instance would be the lack of quality time together. Only on weekends do I get company from my bf so why bother? Anyway, one of my ex bf can't even afford to keep his bike and I have to work I disagree off in order to pay for it. And one last instance, NS guys, well, admit it, are kinda desperate. Once they have a gf, they'll show it off to their bunk mates and keep clinging onto you, afraid that you'd fly off. Not manly at all. Really. And when I broke off with one, he cried like a baby. Real turn-off. Lolz... past experience. No offense.
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Jan 26, 2007 15:40:23 GMT 7
Post by ZenShi on Jan 26, 2007 15:40:23 GMT 7
Princess: I respect and stand by your decision made to leave a winny, given the situation you mentioned.
Love is a sacred thing, but i guess it will work fine if - 1.) the guy and girl are matured 2.) spending quality time does not means how long, but how well, even if you manage to spend an hour of happiness than over 7 days of nothing, its worthwhile 3.) to ns guys: if your girl is highly in demand of $$$, then i advise you not to give any more hope in the relationship. On the other hand, i find that "true" love does not get involve in such finance issue. Instead, if the girl is understanding enough then it will save some quarrel for the couple, though once a while its always nice to have a drop-by surprise from the guy.
So, my appeal to all man-to-be, do not fred, and face your relationship with faith, commitment and respect. Eventually, the bonding will be an unbreakable one where the different stages of life is nothing but an adventure for ur to venture.
- yesterday is nothing but a dream, tomorrow is nothing but a vision -
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Jan 27, 2007 11:37:40 GMT 7
Post by Princess on Jan 27, 2007 11:37:40 GMT 7
Lolz... great anecdote there! Well, I guess I wasn't really matured then. My thinking then goes like: Well, if this guy is not capable of spending time and money on me, it's ok. But if this guy in turn spends my time and money, that's not ok. Moreover, I find him too childish and insecure when he keeps trying to keep me by his side and at the same time, boast to his friends about having a gf. Such idiocy. Lolz... anyway, it's over.
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Jan 27, 2007 17:45:30 GMT 7
Post by ZenShi on Jan 27, 2007 17:45:30 GMT 7
it means you must have been a good catch for him da do so. ha!
i'll be afk for a period due to work and i'll catch ya guys some weeks, months later.
jyaa.tc all.
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Jan 31, 2007 20:47:41 GMT 7
Post by gynette on Jan 31, 2007 20:47:41 GMT 7
haha. princess and zen have been such GREAT MODERATORS TALKING TO ME! and also. helping me out with my problems! thanks! x)
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Feb 4, 2007 0:06:01 GMT 7
Post by Princess on Feb 4, 2007 0:06:01 GMT 7
Lolz... Sorry I haven been able to reply to your threads. I was busy all week studying, taking care of my kid, soing household chores, teaching tuition, doing projects, visiting my mum and mum-inlaw, etc. So busy busy busy... Lolz... Thanks for letting me share what I know too. U guys are a great avenue for me to relieve my pent up stress and energy. It's such a pleasure talking to u ppl.
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Mar 25, 2007 17:54:10 GMT 7
Post by thecarrotstick on Mar 25, 2007 17:54:10 GMT 7
princess is imbal sia, i no time to read so much of her posts in sucha short time, wee:) and her last post is during my birthday.. so sweet.. awww...
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Mar 26, 2007 0:50:51 GMT 7
Post by gynette on Mar 26, 2007 0:50:51 GMT 7
lo. your birthday also in feb ah? haha. aww man. 4feb. hahahaaa. it seems tat i am younger. oh god.
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Mar 26, 2007 13:38:10 GMT 7
Post by thecarrotstick on Mar 26, 2007 13:38:10 GMT 7
ya... wee of cos u younger, im 19 this yr..... lalalalaa
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Mar 26, 2007 13:42:35 GMT 7
Post by PrinCeiFied on Mar 26, 2007 13:42:35 GMT 7
Sad that Zenshi and Princess are too busy currently with their personal life that they haven't been her for quite some time. Hopefully, they'll come back! Maybe we should start a "How great our moderators are" THREAD. LOL
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